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10 Common Break Up Blunders To Avoid If You Want Your Ex Back

By: Claire Tourney If you are still not over your break up and would really like to have a chance at winning your ex-lover back, you have to make sure you are not committing the types of breakup blunders that actually will make it harder to win your ex back.

Are you guilty of committing any of these ten break up blunders?

1.Telling your ex that you think they are making a huge mistake. This isn't going to get them to pause and think it over, it will only make them more sure that they made the right decision to break up with you in the first place.

3. Calling too soon after the break up. Your ex has decided to break up with you and it should be clear enough that they need their space right now and the last thing they want is to hear from you.

3. Drunk Dialing. You have imbibed a bit too much and are really letting your emotions run amuck so you keep picking up the phone to try and get your ex to talk to you. See # 2

5. Leaving a lot of voice mail and email messages.... Again - see #2

5. Telling your ex and everyone else who will listen how badly you have been doing since the break up. You may be hoping to appeal to your ex's sympathetic nature but you are saddling them with your emotions and overwhelming them with your neediness instead. And however unintentional this kind of behavior is manipulative and is a real relationship killer.

6. Continuing to argue about the break up and bring up past disagreements and squabbles. Perhaps you manage to get your ex's attention and get them talking to you. Do you think this is the best use of your time? You really are being fairly immature and petty and this isn't going to get you what you want. It will only keep you stuck in the past instead.

7. Professing your undying love over and over. Even if you think that your ex doesn't understand how much your really love them, that's obviously not the issue at the moment or they wouldn't have wanted to leave. It's time to take a different approach and start analyzing what went wrong with the relationship and what you need to change instead of believing that true love conquers all.

8. Apologizing over and over and over again. Now maybe you did something wrong, perhaps even really blew it by cheating or breaking a big promise. An apology is in order, but you have to know the right way to make an effective apology and rarely anyone knows how to do this. You also don't want to make the mistake of apologizing too soon. And if you didn't do something that warrants an apology, then you are compromising yourself and this isn't an attractive trait in anybody.

9. Trying to make your ex jealous. Well, this may work initially for some psychological reasons, and maybe a little bit won't hurt as people tend to want what they can't have. But it still won't change the reasons for the break up in the first place and if all you are depending on is manipulative tactics to try and win your ex back you will end up with a pretty twisted relationship that will be even harder to keep going for the long term.

10. Pleading with your ex to take you back. The big secret here is this: people like people who like themselves, who are strong and emotionally secure enough not to want someone back so much that they will sacrifice their self dignity by begging.

Now that you know what blunders to avoid when trying to win back your ex girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife it's time to get a perspective on where the relationship went wrong and what needs to change and then you can begin planning a SMARTER strategy for getting your ex back.

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