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Dating Advice for Women - Do You Know What He Is Thinking?

By: Sarah Love Have you ever tried to communicate with someone you're dating about how HE is feeling? It's not usually too easy to pry feelings from the depths of a man's mind, underneath all the football, baseball, cars and "man things" that take up the space in there. The thing is - if you are at the point in your relationship where you are wondering what your boyfriend is thinking and feeling about you and your relationship right now... then it might already be TOO LATE.

This is one of the often missed communication problems in blooming relationships. I know from my own experience what a torturous feeling this can be. I cannot imagine that you want to go down this road either.

Its not simply about that awful feeling, though. It could get much worse, and you could lose him if the communication in your relationship does not get any better. You wouldn't even know he was thinking about leaving, would you?

So what can you do to make this right? I am going to give you a few simple pointers on action steps you can take TODAY to start bridging the communication gap.

First of all - you need to quit trying to wrap your mind around what HE is thinking or feeling. If you want to get your relationship or dating life on the right track - you need to start with YOU. You are in complete control of how you think, react and act - so start by focusing on what YOU need to do to focus on your own ideas and communicate your own feelings.

The next step you can take is very simple - start thinking, acting and reacting to situations in a positive way. When we women get hurt or afraid, often we go into "vulnerable mode" - which HE can see is needy or clingy. Stop doing that - react in a positive manner to situations and stop expecting the worst. Expect better things and you will get better things.

The third step to mend your relationship communication is to begin looking beneath his words. Begin trusting in your intuition to understand what he is or is not saying to you. Then, instead of physically voicing your questions - start to ask yourself the questions and begin relying on your intuition to give you the answers.

The fourth and possibly most important tip I will give you is to learn to correctly interpret what your intuition is telling you. Let's say you've been cheated on before and now you have the sinking feeling that your current boyfriend is cheating on you as well. He is acting sneaky and odd. But later you may come to find out that he is planning a surprise birthday party for you. This was not at all what you thought was going on.

In this situation, it is your insecurities that cloud the face of your intuition. Learn to separate your insecurities and feelings from what your intuition is telling you. In other words, learn to let the situation speaks for itself in a neutral and nonjudgmental tone. These things will help your communication in your relationship become clearer and much more effective. If you need more dating advice and relationship tips click below.