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Helpful Hints To Get That Second Date

By: Pam Baldwin Let's turn back the clock. You've gone on your first date with a woman. It went pretty well, but you're not exactly sure how she feels about you. First dates are first impressions right? Unless you totally blew it, the chances of rounding up that second date with your lady, are probably a lot better than you may think.

In preparing to make a follow-up call, it is a very good useful idea to look at what you did on the first date, and recall what things you liked about each event that you shared. Writing down this information is a good thing to do. One way to show interest in your date is by recalling specific things of the date you shared together already.

Before making the follow-up call, activities to boost your confidence are always a plus, as long as not taken too far beyond confidence and itno cockiness, which is definitely not a turn-on for women. Exercise, talking with a good friend, some strenuous activity to raise adrenline are all good ideas for making you feel good about yourself, thus enabling you to dial the number on a positive note.

Dial that number! when she answers, make sure you clearly state who are to avoid any embarrassing and confidence deflating moments. Make sure you talk for a couple minutes about her. How she's doing, what she did today, are vital questions to ask. She'll know you're a good listner, and women like that! Ask one follow-up question to her answers. Any more and she may think you're bugging her, but asking an extra question might just give you points in her book.

Now for the important moment! Inquire about her plans later in the week. Women like time to prepare to go out with men, so it's important to leave her some time to do this. If she's available, just ask her if she wants to get together. Keep it casual, since you don't want to frighten her away. If it happens that she does have plans, tell her why you called. You had a lot of fun with her last time, and would like to know if she's interested in going out with you again. Be sure to keep it light, and don't sound desperate!

If she said \"yes\", that fantastic! However, she may not have given the answer you were hoping for. In that case, decide if you really want to go out with this particular person again, and if you do, tell her you'd like to see her again when she has some free time. Give her your number and tell her if she'd like to do that, to give you a call when she's available. Chances are, she may wait until she feels in charge of the situation to go out with you again. Or, maybe there won't be a call at anytime. Whatever happens, go on with your life! Do not sat waiting by the phone for a call that may never come, or stop living your life.

If she didn't sound that interested, or time passes and there is no call, it's okay. Begin again. Think about your conduct on that first date. What were you wearing? Were there any uncomfortable moments? If you did everything right as far as you know, and still there is no second date in sight, then move on. Maybe life just has someone else better suited for you in the future. Use the experience of this passed first date to perfect your next first date. Learn from it and go forward. Give it another shot with someone else.

Above all, always be yourself. It gets very difficult to function by way of trying to be someone you aren't. Be spontaneous and take a chance. Remember to listen, be polite, and remain involved on your next date. Assuming that you followed all of these tips, I feel pretty certain that the second date should be in the bag.

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