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Helpful Hints for Quitting Smoking and the Will to Live

By: Lorelei F As I thought about helpful hints for quitting smoking this week I could not help but think of my dad, who passed away last week. Now he did not pass away from lung cancer, nor did he smoke any of the days that I ever knew him. However what I could see was that the last few years of his life had been very much bereft of the joy of living.

In the last years of his life, my father could not see to watch the movies he enjoyed. He was unable to sing, which had always been the joy of his life. He could not jump about and play with his grandchildren, or make them laugh- another joy gone. And in fact he could not do much except sit in his chair at the house- and later move from the chair to the bed in the hospital where he was sent for his diabetes.

Now this is a blog about helpful hints for quitting smoking. So why do I mention all of this here. Well first I would like to say that this blog is more along the lines of an inquiry, and I don't have all of the answers.

Now one could argue that I am an expert on addictions, and why people do what they do, as they do it. And one could argue that I am an expert on how people can shift their behavior. But in the final analysis, neither I nor anyone else can have you quit smoking. It is only you who can do it.

So as an inquiry, I mull over the fact that my dad had in some ways lost his heart and soul, and in fact his will to live. Now it is true that he struggled about leaving the rest of us behind. But in the final analysis, his will to be 'done with it all' won out.

So I take this into the realm of our inquiry by saying that if you are struggling in your life for some reason, or if you have terminal and ongoing upsets and pain in your life- if you are in short unhappy- how much chance will there be that you will actually quit smoking? You will be living, like my dad, in the confusion, with conflicting desires. And one can hardly argue that smoking is one easy, socially acceptable way to fulfill on some hidden wish to die.

Now I certainly do not say that all people who smoke have a death wish. I know too much about the emotional and physical pull of an addiction to ever say something so simplistic. However if you do smoke and you want to quit, it would seem to be smart inquire into your will to live and your life circumstances. Because without a strong desire to stay on this planet, all of your efforts may be null and void.

My dad, before he became so desperately ill, had a strong love of life and a high level of happiness no matter what his situation was. You can have that too. You can begin to do this by being honest with yourself about the true state of your happiness and then taking the steps to live a life you love. This in turn will increase your will to live. As you do that you can also be using Hypnosis or Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or some other tool to help you to quit smoking. Taken together, I would see this as a good formula. Now living a life of happiness can seem to be a bit elusive. However, it is a subject I speak about in my other blogs, so visit them as well, and they should be a help.

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