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Natural and Lasting Attraction- The Key to Healthy Relationships

By: Sarah Love Have you ever been dating a man for a while and things are going GREAT - then suddenly they take a turn for the worse and you end up losing him even though you tried your hardest to keep him? This happens to MANY women - and the strange things is - when a man starts withdrawing, we all react the same way using one of (or several) behaviors I have figured out.

The first behavior is to try to become his "buddy", staying close to him and trying to help him with his problems. You do this because you think he will soon recognize what a wonderful relationship you have.

On the other hand, you may try to create jealousy in him by dating other guys, even if you are not interested in them. Or perhaps you just TELL people you are in hopes that it will get back to him.

You might also pretend that he is not hurting you by withdrawing, and that a casual relationship is fine. Of course, you will still have sex with him to keep him coming over, but you mask your hurt and never let him see it.

You could also give him an ultimatum - guilt trip him or get angry with him and tell him to man up and get into the relationship. You are thinking that he will soon realize just how happy and content he really is and then happily ever after will follow.

Or of course, there is always trying to do everything for him that he could need done. You might baby him, do his laundry - be as thoughtful as possible in order to, again, show him how much he would be missing.

ALL women do these things at one time or another. It is so strange, too, because these things do not work! Ever see hordes of dead frogs on a road on a rainy night? Same concept - others go before us and die a miserable death, but we hop out on the same road into the same traffic thinking, well, it will work for me. ThenSQUASH!!!

Well - what does work then? The problem is there is no magic cure. There is no fairy dust, no pill, no instant fix in a sentence or two that is going to cure it. What WILL work, however, is to start doing the things that make a man feel a natural and lasting attraction toward you.

Understanding what creates natural attraction will help you in your own relationship to create a stable, satisfying relationship for both you and your partner. What prevents so many women from getting into the relationship of their dreams is that they cannot get past their own personal mindset.

But if you can learn to understand how your mindset affects how you interpret and respond to a man...you will soon get the kind of awareness that will help you interpret on an individual basis what will work for your situation and what will not.

Creating natural and lasting attraction will help boost your relationship to new levels - levels of security, comfort and amazing connections that will last for a lifetime. Do yourself a favor and LEARN what triggers natural attraction and what YOU can do today to maintain that.